tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366909960546184927.post9057651411237296977..comments2023-06-11T02:19:27.429-07:00Comments on Academic Cog: Still alive. Still inside. Still in hiding.Sisyphushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09880634753539329199noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366909960546184927.post-91554493895867908172014-07-05T16:30:50.930-07:002014-07-05T16:30:50.930-07:00Let's review: bored neighbor with wayyyy too ...Let's review: bored neighbor with wayyyy too much time on her hands likes drama and excitement enough to generate it. She wants your keys? I follow everyone above in voting "no." undinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05589384016564587214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366909960546184927.post-39142440349059066172014-07-05T11:13:19.095-07:002014-07-05T11:13:19.095-07:00You may have to be at least a bit rude, at least b...You may have to be at least a bit rude, at least by your lights, since she does, indeed, sound manipulative and boundary-less. <br /><br />And no,I wouldn't hand her your house keys, at least not long enough for her to make a copy (because it would be so "neighborly" to be able to help you if you got locked out, or were away and needed to take care of something, etc., etc.) <br /><br />With any luck, if you put up some boundaries, she'll latch onto someone new(er) soon.Contingent Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08161652083031423415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366909960546184927.post-47631340410853682662014-07-05T07:51:19.434-07:002014-07-05T07:51:19.434-07:00Oh, we were never sure ours was genuinely helpless...Oh, we were never sure ours was genuinely helpless; on the balance, it seemed more likely that she had 78 years of practice in manipulating people to do things for her.Fretful Porpentinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11165078003123517013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366909960546184927.post-81392875285137160112014-07-04T17:36:17.928-07:002014-07-04T17:36:17.928-07:00That's so interesting because I never would ha...That's so interesting because I never would have used "learned helplessness" in conjunction with her! There's something so very <i>sly</i> and calculating in her eyes when she talks about that stuff, particularly when she offered to care for my cats. <br /><br />But I met the Lady in a Church Hat type a few times in Postdoc City and I would *not* like to deal with them on an extended basis ---- especially since they have no concept of efficiency and time.Sisyphushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09880634753539329199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7366909960546184927.post-8674160916967057862014-07-04T15:35:36.767-07:002014-07-04T15:35:36.767-07:00OMG, your neighbor sounds SO much like the elderly...OMG, your neighbor sounds SO much like the elderly auditor we just took on the study abroad trip, except she is the Deep South version of the type, so she doesn't dress like Paris Hilton. But the incessant talking, the intrusiveness, and the learned helplessness? That is SO our auditor. (Be glad you're not stuck in Ireland with her for a month!)Fretful Porpentinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11165078003123517013noreply@blogger.com